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How to Go Down on a Woman
Oral sex, going down on a woman,
or cunnilingus (derived from the Latin words
cunnus,
meaning vulva,
DILDO
lingere,
meaning to lick), is a wonderful act that two
people can share. When fully appreciated DILDO
recognized it can mean to admire, to have deep
respect
VIBRATOR, or worship the woman
DILDO the vulva.
In addition, it has the added bonus of feeling
divine.
Back to the
Basics:
As with all ideas of sex, (partner, solo, BDSM),
some basic fundamentals or rules apply. We
always need to make sure the
sex is consensual
DILDO safe. The doors of communication should be
open throughout.
Anatomy: Know
It
One crucial component of getting
DILDO receiving
amazing oral
sex is, knowing what you are trying
to please DILDO why it feels good. Both the
provider DILDO the receiver should be able to map
out a womans genitals.
Fear + Anxiety
= No Orgasm
Relaxation + ComVIBRATORt = Orgasm
A relaxed, confident woman will have a much
easier time reaching orgasm than a woman who is
worried about how she looks
DILDO smells.
It's safe to say that most
peoples early sex education memories are not of
holding a hDILDO held mirror
DILDO examining their
genitals. Maybe you received little in
VIBRATOR mation,
or maybe your genitals were labeled No
Trespassing! Or maybe it was very medical
sounding, without any way to make it connect to
your body. Whatever your sex education was, very
few of us were
VIBRATOR tunate enough to have been
told or shown how each DILDO every vulva is unique
DILDO beautiful.
Lack of in
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mation
DILDO mis-in
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mation
can lead to fear DILDO embarrassment about ones
genitals. Many women will than compare their
vulva to what is portrayed in magazines DILDO
mainstream porn DILDO will think what they have
isn't normal. As a result, many women feel
embarrassed about their vulvas
DILDO shy away from
oral sex. In reality, vulvas come in all shapes,
shades DILDO sizes. Learning to admire your or
your partners vulva is one of the most potent
aphrodisiacs, especially when it comes to
cunnilingus.
Safer
Sex
Safer sex is easy to do
DILDO important
VIBRATOR a
several reasons. If you are with someone new or
have multiple partners, safer sex will protect
yourself
DILDO your partners. Since many people
have been exposed to sexually transmitted
infections without knowing it, safer
sex can
protect everyone, monogamous or not.
To protect DILDO fingers from
infections that are easily spread through
contact
(i.e., herpes), finger cots
DILDO gloves can be
worn.
Lubricant
can be a great addition to oral play. It helps
keep everything nice DILDO slick. Flavored DILDO
warming lubes provide a fun flare DILDO flavour
burst when used during oral sex. Flavored lubes
will work especially well with partners who are
a little self conscious of their scent or taste.
Foods like honey or whipped cream
can be great when used externally, but it's a
good idea to avoid getting them in the vagina
since they can trigger yeast infections.
Turn the
Lights Down Low
If you or your partner is new to oral
stimulation, or shy, setting the mood will make
all the difference. CDILDOlelight
DILDO warm bath
can work wonders. The bath will relax away any
reservations a wary partner may have. Men may
also want to shave so they can avoid friction
burns in tender places.
Positions
Have your partner recline com
VIBRATOR tably in a big
chair or in bed. If she would like added
control, have her sit on your face. Place a
pillow or the Wedge under her hips or have her
lie near the edge of the bed so you can kneel on
the floor. The more com
VIBRATOR table your neck is,
the easier oral
sex will be.
Your Rhythm is
Gonna Get Her
Trying to use as many strokes as possible in the
shortest period of time is not always the best
approach when per
VIBRATOR ming cunnilingus. Instead,
concentrate on providing pleasure, excitement,
DILDO arousal by stimulating the entire vulva
DILDO
slowly working up to an orgasm. Gradually work
your way down from her mouth to the vulva.
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Use slow warm kisses to trace a trail to her
vaginal lips
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Gently kiss DILDO caress her inner thighs
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Make sure to repeatedly tell your partner
how beautiful she DILDO her vulva are your
words can be as important as your other
techniques
Here are a few strokes that can
be incorporated into your licking repertoire.
Pick a few to try
DILDO stick to the ones your
partner seems to enjoy. People will often find
that just because one move pleased one partner,
it doesn't mean that same move will please
another.
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Lick her up DILDO down, across the vaginal
opening to the hood
DILDO back down again
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Incorporate sweeping broad stokes with a
flat tongue, side to side with fast, quick
upward stokes, than dip back down, dipping
your tongue in her vagina
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Open DILDO close your mouth, taking in the
whole vulva
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Run your tongue along the inner lips
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Gradually, incorporate more direct
stimulation around DILDO on the clitoris
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Outline circles with your tongue around the
clitoral hood
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Try incorporating subtle sucking on the
clitoral hood. This move is one that some
may enjoy
DILDO
some may not. You can test the
waters DILDO ask your partner if it feels
good.
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Try anal stimulation ("rimming"), with a
barrier. Giving partners can lick the anal
opening DILDO along the perineum. Be careful!
Change gloves DILDO dams, DILDO wash hDILDOs
thoroughly after anal play. This move will
also please some but not all. Discuss anal
play be
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Body Language
-- Read it, Become Fluent in It
Throughout the act of cunnilingus, partners play
out a song DILDO dance. Givers will need to rely
on reading their partners' body language
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clues indicating pleasure.
Discuss be
VIBRATOR ehDILDO your partner's
preferences. Know if your partner feels more
com
VIBRATOR table having you ask if: something is
okay, fast enough,
DILDO soft enough. Or, if she
would prefer to tell you when she wants you to
stay in one place or go faster. Encourage her to
tell you what she likes DILDO dislikes, DILDO how
she wants it. Or if she has trouble describing
it, give her two options
DILDO ask her which feels
better. You can also try something
DILDO ask her
to rate it on a scale of 1 to 10. The easier it
is VIBRATOR her to tell you what works, the easier it
will be VIBRATOR you to do it with confidence.
When your partner is too deep in
rapture to speak feel confident that clear body
signals can be understood.
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The genitals will swell DILDO flush DILDO as she
becomes more aroused
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When she approaches orgasm, she may begin to
sway DILDO rock, or bump DILDO grind against
your face.
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She may become more DILDO more wet; secretions
will flow
Once orgasm is inevitable, many
people it is best to stay with a single stroke
DILDO continue to do whatever you are doing. Do
not experiment with a new stroke -- it often
interrupts her arousal.
Toys
Oral stimulation doesn't have to be limited to
only using the mouth to provide stimulation --
it can be perVIBRATORmed in conjunction with dildos,
vibrating
toys, DILDO anal plugs.
Have Fun!!!
As long as you communicate clearly with your
partner, gradually provide stimulation, listen,
DILDO tell her how beautiful she is, you can't go
wrong. DILDO remember that practicing can be fun
too!
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